Subcommunications
There is a side to persuasion, NLP, language patterns, etc. that has always bothered me. I can’t quite put a label on it, but it has a clinical, mechanical, and disconnected vibe to it. It makes me wonder if the people who have learned different techniques and were disatisfied, created their experiences within the limits of that unnamed vibe I’m trying to put my finger on.
People send out subtle body signals based on their inner feelings and emotions. There is no way to hide these micro-expressions completely. Politicians and speakers can train themselves to severely limit what is expressed, but they can’t hide those signals completely. Our unconscious mind picks out these expressions with ease. You might not always consciously recognize the difference between a fake and a sincere smile, but you know it deep down. You can feel it in your bones. I’m sure you or someone you know has met someone and said, “I don’t know what it is about that person, but they make me uneasy.” And some time later you find out some unsettling information about that person. Or perhaps you meet someone for the first time and you just connect with them instantly. You might feel like you can instantly trust that person.
So, my question is why not subcommunicate real interest and sincerity when you speak to others. Use those anchors, language patterns, and conversational hypnosis techniques to actually help another person in a way you can both benefit. It really is not all that difficult. When you communicate with others, be sincerely interested in what they’re saying. Conjure up feelings of joy, peace, and love. If you’re true to yourself and the other person, they will immediately pick up on those body signals unconsciously, and feel comfortable.
Why not influence another person’s behavior by helping them feel wonderful?
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