First things first
So many beginners in persuasion become enamored with NLP and conversational hypnosis techniques. They memorize patterns, use anchors, and mirror body language. Eventually many of them end this path by giving up and are left, rightfully so, believing all this persuasion stuff is hype.
I can’t fault anyone for this. Language patterns, hypnosis, and other technical skills are very attractive. This is the stuff that sells because it looks like magic. You are promised ultimate power if you purchase the right underground techniques. I got into it for the same reason, but soon realized specializing in only the technical side of it makes for one really strange person, and not a very persuasive one.
Those truly amazing individuals who persuade with ease possess well-honed social skills before anything else. They have a deep understanding of the psychology of human behavior. Anything else is just icing on the cake.
So, master your interactions with people first. Find out why they do the things they do. Learn to smile and be at ease. Then you can safely apply the technical aspects of persuasion. Otherwise you end up looking like a robot who speaks with such complexity, no one can understand what you’re trying to say.
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admin :: Nov.19.2007 :: persuasion :: 3 Comments »
a post saying true things …
but why the break ??
I’ll just say that certain groups do not appreciate my writing; it is possibly nearing the limits of becoming too revealing. Indeed my new book The Black Book of Psychiatry may get me into too much trouble, so I have chosen to only give copies to my private students. It will not be released to the public. I am still undecided as to whether I will keep this site going or not.
dont worry about being sidelined by those who dont like your work…
they are the ones who think that the world is a mirror of their thoughts…
many dont take the pains to understand why humans think and behave the way they do…
most of them resort to scientific methods…
i completely agree with you though…
the cultural programming on the public in my country (india) is enormous…and those who dont follow it are said to have lost their senses…or worse…that satan has entered theri minds…
please do respond to my comments…
if not on your site…
then atleast email me your responses…
i am eagerly waiting for them…